November 27, 2014

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 27, 2014

I regret choosing and insisting on going to that particular college, the one four states away, even though you said I could only go to a college within 2 states. I regret this, not because of the people I met, or the time I spent out there, but because now I am about $40,000 in debt now, and I am only 21 years old. You tried to tell me that there was equal schooling in state that wouldn't cost as much, but I insisted. I regret that I am that in debt, and am majoring in something that will probably never let me earn more than $40,000 per year. I regret going to that school for two years while the major I studied there didn't even pertain to what major I now have. But mostly, I regret that you had to cosign on those loans. You put your faith in me and my ability to pay them back, but I am unsure if that will be possible. I regret possibly hurting not only your credit score, but possibly hurting your entire life because you trusted me to do something that I am now not sure can be done.

November 26, 2014

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 26, 2014


I regret sleeping with your husband. And yours. And hers. And theirs. And especially yours, who I slept with for ten years. I justified it to myself, that these men must not be satisfied with their wives if they were willing to be with me. I told myself that being with them was actually doing their wives and families a favor. I was keeping their husband and father happy so he would remain in their lives.
 
What an arrogant fool I was. I hurt so many people. Two of these men left their families to be with me, and of course it could never have worked - and in fact did not. How many people's lives were devastated because I had such poor self esteem and abandonment issues that I would only allow unavailable men into my life?
 
It's taken 20 years and the healthiest relationship I've ever been in to realize how horrific my actions were. How callous. I am with a man who would never in a million years cheat on me, nor I on him. We are perfect for each other. Twelve years together and it just keeps getting better.
 
I don't know why God felt I deserved a man like this after all I did to your husband. And yours. And hers. And theirs. But I thank Him every day for His forgiveness. I wish I had some way of asking for YOUR forgiveness (and hers, and theirs) without creating new wounds on top of the old. I don't think I'll ever not carry the guilt with me.
F/44

November 25, 2014

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 25, 2014

My biggest secret regret was holding a loan for my friend of 16 yrs. It was supposed to be for 3 months only but unfortunately, the misery has lasted almost 6 yrs now. I am almost to the point of financial and emotional bankruptcy.

November 24, 2014

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 24, 2014


I have lots of secret regrets, but the biggest one was of such atomic proportions that its mushroom cloud continues to hang above my head and rain down nuclear fallout. I cannot even speak of it. I am 55 years old and I want to go home.

November 23, 2014

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 23, 2014

I regret I ended a friendship with my best friend because of her drug problem and her choice of friends. I also was involved in a relationship that she became jealous over because I spent my weekends with him, instead of her. We argued and were mad at each other more than we were friends and it just became too stressful for me to have her as a friend. She didn't care about me anymore. I miss her.

November 22, 2014

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 22, 2014

I regret ever meeting you. I regret moving across the country to be with you even though I knew you were married. I regret thinking that you truthfully wanted to be with me, even though you continued to go home to your wife. I regret having aborted our baby, so you could have your money and your marriage. I regret still being stupid enough to sleep with you, even after I met a wonderful man. I regret hurting that wonderful man for two years while you and I continued to sleep together behind his back. You took advantage of my state of mind, just to get laid, even through both of my pregnancies. I regret every single minute of my life that I was too stupid to cut you out of. 25/Female

November 21, 2014

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 21, 2014

My secret regret is that my mom died in May 2010, she had been very sick for many years. My whole life I never saw her cry, except the last few years of her life when her pain and emotions over the pain got the best of her. About 8 weeks before she died she started calling and begging me to spend time with her, crying even. I had just seperated from my husband and was in a new relationship, and for the most part my time was spent at work, with my kids, and my new boyfriend. I stopped making her my number one priority. She died, wanting to spend more time with me. Wanting to have a girls movie day. I didn't make the time for her, I didn't know our time was so limited. I saw her the day before she died, and I didn't even hug her goodbye. Being selfish in her final months is my biggest regret. Not a day goes by that I don't hate myself for not keeping her my number one. I knew she was sick, I knew she needed me. I regret the last 3 months of her life everyday.

November 20, 2014

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 20, 2014


My biggest regret is not believing in myself when I had the chance to chase my dreams. I gave up and I settled. Now I am 23, married and with 2 kids. My dreams are now (and forever) on the back burner. I look at another man and think "should I have stayed with you?"
 
I always felt like people who told me I could be something real were lying to me. And now I realize they were trying to help me.
 
23/f

November 19, 2014

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 19, 2014

The biggest regret of my life was the college that I chose. I was the "Player of the Year" over current 76ers Assistant Coach and friend, Aaron McKie. Former N.B.A. player Rasheed Wallace was a teammate of his as well who was a contender for the honor as well. Anyway, My dream was to play in the N.B.A. and my college experience was horrible in connection to my coach. Before the season of my freshman year, we had to fill out a questionnaire and one of the questions was, "Where do you see yourself in five years?" I answered in the N.B.A. and it seemed like after that my coach had committed himself to making me feel that I was not good enough. He even told me to my face that I was not good enough to go to a bigger school. I average 30 points a game in high school and went to the school in order to be a big fish in a little pond. My coach would tell me to just focus on your education and not playing basketball at the next level. I did end up playing professionally overseas in Europe and Asia but overseas was not my dream but instead the N.B.A. was.

I could not watch college basketball for about 15 years and even watching the N.B.A. tournament (In which I played in 2x during my college career) this year kind of made me depressed to the point of isolating myself, sometimes from my wife. As I watched players live out their dream and the one I would have like to, it was very, very hard as the pain seem so fresh and like I was reliving my experience all over again. I have moved on but not past this struggle. "March Madness" is a tough time of year for me every year. It has been about 18 years since I have been out of college but it is still tough. I would go for walks sometimes and the only thing that I could think about was what I would do differently. I would have went to prep school for two years at Virginia Union while continuing to get better and better and then went to a big time college basketball program and because of my talent, I would have most likely gotten drafted or at a minimum made a team.

I am thankful for what I have achieved but it has been tough and a struggle.. I know that I would not have had to struggle so much to achieve after basketball because my N.B.A. career would have set me up for a good job perhaps commentating for ESPN or something because I have the personality and I speak publicly so well. It is tough asking, wishing and wanting someone to give you a yes these days. The higher you achieve, you tend to get "yes" more often.

In closing, they say that the 2 biggest decisions one will have to make in their lives is choosing a college and and choosing a wife because they both will determine your future. I got the wife part right but the college I chose was a HUGE mistake.

November 18, 2014

SECRET REGRET OF THE DAY: November 18, 2014

I am the reason my parents stayed married, completely unhappy, for over 18 years. I regret the fact that I never paid enough attention to realize they didn't want to be together. Sometimes I wish they would've gotten a divorce when I was a little kid like they wanted to, instead of staying in an unhealthy marriage until I went to college. When my own father came to me and told me that I, his only daughter, was the one reason he stayed with my mom, it hurts. And when your own mother says she has been living with a man she HATES for years just so see me grow up "normal", it absolutely kills. Nothing hurts more then feeling like a broken relationship is all your fault... and it still hurts me to this day. I regret the fact that I am the reason they were so unhappy for such a long time.